This week we are going to explore the potential we see in others.
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Intentional Leadership — D1, W2, M2 — Relationships
Posted in Leadership, tagged Change the World, Commitment, Communication, Consequences, Doing the Right Thing, Dreams, Intentional, Leadership, Learning, Personal Growth, Reflection, Self-Awareness on February 18, 2013| Leave a Comment »
Intentional Leadership — D5, W1, M2 — Relationships
Posted in Leadership, tagged Communication, Goals, Intentional, Leadership, Life Plan, Planning, Prioritizing, Purpose, Reflection, Self-Awareness, Taking action on February 15, 2013| Leave a Comment »
Another Friday, another week gone by, and a new focus. Time for the weekend…
As we head into this first weekend of Month Two — focused on relationships — what are your thoughts?
What do you need to take care of, think about, prepare for this weekend? Here are some things to consider:
What relationships do you need to focus on and nurture this weekend?
What will that mean in terms of time, energy, preparation, activity?
As you make your list, don’t forget to include yourself. If you don’t take care of you, you won’t be able to care for others.
How much rest do you need this weekend? I need a bunch, but it would take a superhuman effort to get it. Lots to do this weekend, as I have a BIG (and I mean HUGE) week coming — but more about that in another post.
How much – and what kind of – activity do you need?
What loose ends do you need to tie up from this week?
What do you need to do to prepare yourself for a great start to next week, preparing for Monday?
Finally, what thought are you giving to things you have planned or need to prepare for or complete in the coming months?
On Monday, we will begin month two – week two of our Intentional Leadership Journey, continuing to focus on Relationships.
Have a great weekend, and I’ll “see” you on Monday!
Intentional Leadership — D4, W1, M2 — Relationships
Posted in Leadership, tagged Communication, Intentional, Leadership, Perception = Reality, Planning, Prioritizing, Reflection, Self-Awareness, Taking action on February 14, 2013| Leave a Comment »
Good morning, and Happy Thursday!
Today is another day for reflection. I encourage you to spend some time journaling about what you learned through your colleague, yesterday, about external perceptions of your skills in building the foundational elements of relationships.
What did you learn?
How can you use this new insight to help you improve?
When you are done with that, shift to thinking about the people you lead or interact with regularly. In each of the foundational areas, write down an action step you can take to promote these behaviors and strengthen your relationships.
Honesty
Reliability
Relating
Empathy
Time
Now, we know that if we don’t make these actions a priority, they won’t likely get done. So, let’s look at your schedule…fit these actions into your schedules on specific days and times. You will have a much greater chance of success then.
After all, your calendar is one telling measure of what your true priorities are.
Have a thoughtful Thursday!
Intentional Leadership — D2, W1, M2 — Relationships
Posted in Leadership, tagged Character, Communication, Intentional, Leadership, Personal Growth, Reflection, Self-Awareness on February 12, 2013| Leave a Comment »
It’s self-assessment time! Before we get too far into thinking about and discussing relationships, let’s see how we do on some key foundational elements of relationship-building.
Assess yourself on each of these elements:
Honesty: When you speak with others, how open are you? Do you share information about yourself that might reflect poorly on you? Are you comfortable acknowledging that you don’t know something, or do you bluff your way through as if you are knowledgeable?
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Reliability: Can others count on you to follow through on your commitments?
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Relating: When you are with others, do you listen attentively, seeking to understand others first? Or are you focused on being understood?
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Empathy: Do you demonstrate your concern for others by doing what you can when someone needs help? Recognize that support may take many forms: standing up for someone, listening, taking action on another’s behalf, or just doing some small act of kindness.
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Time: Are you consistent about investing time and energy into your most important relationships? Are you contributing to the health of your relationships, or are you taking, not giving? As John Maxwell says, in every relationship you can be a + or a – … which are you?
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After rating yourself, spend a little time to summarize your thoughts on this exercise. Are you a plus (+) or a minus (-)? What did you learn that you can use to improve your approach to relationships?
This area of leadership is like all the others in that to do well here, one must have a certain level of self-awareness and operate in an intentional manner. As with the exercises that came before now, it’s important that you are really honest with yourself. If you are shallow in this area, it will be readily apparent.
“See” you on Wednesday!
Intentional Leadership – Month Two – Relationships
Posted in Leadership, tagged Character, Communication, Goals, Intentional, Leadership, Learning, Personal Growth, Purpose, Reflection, Relationships on February 10, 2013| Leave a Comment »
On Monday, we will begin month two of our intentional leadership journey. As has become the pattern, I will share thoughts and exercises with you Monday – Friday each week. The premise for month two is this: Relationships are the best indicators of a successful and satisfied life.
If you’ve been through some “personality” assessments, you may have been categorized as a “task-focused” person rather than a “relationship-focused” person. Earlier in my life, I was more task-focused. I believe it’s the result of having grown up in an unstable household, the circumstances of which lead me to believe that I could count on only myself, and it was much safer to not need people or allow them to get close; after all, they would only disappoint or hurt me.
Those beliefs and behaviors served me well for some time. I learned to be very responsible, independent, self-sufficient, able to learn nearly any skill I needed to get through life’s basic needs and challenges. But there came a time when those beliefs and behaviors became more of a detriment to me. My ability to expand my influence and ability to get work done was severely limited. I had alienated a lot of people.
Over time, and a lot of painful experiences, I learned that not only would I be able to accomplish more and do whatever it was better, but also my life would be much richer if I could develop healthy relationships with people. It was hard. It required me to let my guard down and admit that I couldn’t do it all myself, and it was ok to need people.
I won’t say it’s been a bed of roses ever since. I’ve made bad decisions about trusting some, and not trusting others. I’ve been hurt, more than once. But I’ve also come to really value the relationships I have developed and have a true understanding of the saying: No one of us is as smart as all of us. I truly am more productive, effective, and able to accomplish so much more by connecting with others and spreading the load. And it’s ever so much more satisfying.
I learned that I cannot lead if I am the only one…as they say, if you are by yourself, you are not leading, merely taking a walk!
I believe in the power of true connection which leads to synergy which results in something so much greater than the sum of its parts. However, I also know that this doesn’t just happen. Often, especially in business, you will find groups of people who toil under the illusion they are a team and are all working on the same thing. When you get into the thick of whom they are and what they are doing, however, you discover they are just a group of people who think they are a team…and the results they achieve are either equal to or less than what the individuals would accomplish alone.
True teams do not happen by accident. They take time, intention, and focus to build. But when they really come together, the outcomes can be amazing – significantly more than the sum of their parts.
As we prepare to start Week One of Month Two, take a few minutes to think about these things:
How are your strengths and weaknesses reflected in your relationships?
How have relationships throughout your life helped you to grow into a leader?
When have you put aside relational differences to pursue a shared goal?
What sacrifices have you made for the sake of a relationship?
I look forward to this next part of our journey. Please share your thoughts along the way.
Intentional Leadership – Month One – Vision – Wrap-up
Posted in Leadership, tagged Change the World, Communication, Dreams, Goals, Intentional, Leadership, Passion, Planning, Purpose, Reflection, Success on February 9, 2013| Leave a Comment »
We’ve just spent the last four weeks together, focusing on the visions we have cast for our teams/organizations. How did it go for you?
In West Virginia, we’ve had a lot of snow off-and-on over the last couple of weeks, which can create hazardous driving conditions. When I’m a passenger in the car, I can enjoy the beauty and magic of the snow. When I’m the driver, I have other concerns – and being able to see, clearly, where I am going is critical. I must be ever vigilant paying attention to the snow coming down, the road conditions, other drivers, and the occasional critter that decides it must also use the road I’m on. It would be lazy and reckless of me to do anything less.
The same can be said of leaders. It’s critical that we are able to cast a compelling vision in a simple and clear manner, so that our teams and organizations can easily understand. If we do it well, and are able to inspire them, they are likely to commit to helping you achieve it, knowing it’s an opportunity to be part of something much greater than them.
I encourage you to dream big. Find that thing that drives you, that fills you with passion. Paint a vivid picture of it for yourself and others. Determine the path you must start down in order to reach it…then take action.
It’s been said that everyone dreams of something. For some, the dream is so real you can almost reach out and touch it, for others it’s just a passing fancy. For some it’s a wish, for others it’s a belief. If you are the vivid dreamer, and you believe in your vision, you will succeed, but you must get started.
If you’re still following this blog – joining me on this intentional leadership journey – I suspect there is some longing within you, some stirring within your soul that has you excited about the future.
What is it?
What do you long to do, be, or have more of?
What do you want to create in the world?
Whatever it is, grab hold of it, nurture it, bring it forth into the world…do not let it fade away, for we will all miss out!
On Monday, we will begin Month Two of our journey, focused on relationships. “See” you then!
Intentional Leadership – D5, W4, M1 – Weekend Prep – Vision
Posted in Leadership, tagged Communication, Goals, Intentional, Leadership, Life Plan, Planning, Purpose, Reflection, Self-Awareness, Success on February 8, 2013| Leave a Comment »
This is becoming our Friday routine. Did you anticipate it?
As we come to the end of this first month on our Intentional Leadership journey, will you spend some time in reflection of the work you’ve done over the past week and consider how it’s going?
Are you ahead of me this week and already have your weekend thought out?
How much rest do you need this weekend?
How much – and what kind of – activity do you need?
Who can you spend time with that will encourage, nurture, stimulate, support you?
Who needs some of your time and attention?
What do you need to do for yourself this weekend — to relax, refresh, reflect, reinvigorate?
What do you need to do to prepare yourself for a great start to next week, preparing for Monday?
As is my norm, I don’t have the time scheduled, but have a few things I know I need to attend to:
I need to get more sleep this weekend than I have been.
I will spend time reading, playing, and doing homework with my son.
I will read at least an hour of something fun and an hour of something on growth.
I will spend at least two hours working through curriculum in the John Maxwell Online University and at least two hours on business accounting.
I will call my parents. I will respond to some personal emails. I will handwrite a couple of letters — one to a mentor and one to an old roommate (I confess to not completing this task last weekend).
And I will prepare for Monday…as we all know, Monday is going to arrive; it always does. I know I feel better when I’ve given some thought to how I want it to be.
Again, what thought are you giving to things you have planned or need to prepare for or complete in the coming months?
On Monday, we will begin month two of our Intentional Leadership Journey, and our focus will shift from Vision to Relationships.
Remember, success comes from taking steps and doing work each and every day, consistently over time. You’ll see the benefits of your efforts if you are persistent and consistent.
Have a great weekend, and I’ll “see” you on Monday!
Intentional Leadership — D4, W4, M1 — Vision
Posted in Leadership, tagged Communication, Goals, Intentional, Leadership, Learning, Personal Growth, Reflection, Self-Awareness, Success on February 7, 2013| Leave a Comment »
Thursday is the day for reflection.
Take some time today to consider what you heard from your trusted colleagues yesterday.
What did you hear that was good?
What did you hear that concerned you?
Would your work carry on because of the legacy you left?
One of the keys to success is self-awareness. This is true true regardless of the position you hold in an organization, and especially so for a leader. We must face the truth and learn from it.
What have you learned about yourself as you focused on your vision this month?
Where are you strong?
Where do you fall short?
What changes will you make in your leadership style as a result of this examination?
Intentional Leadership — D3, W4, M1 — Vision
Posted in Leadership, tagged Commitment, Communication, Goals, Leadership, Perception = Reality, Self-Awareness, Success on February 6, 2013| Leave a Comment »
Armed with your clearly defined vision, the plans you drafted last week, and your evaluation of your preparation from yesterday, it’s now time to get some feedback from trust colleagues or confidants. As we all know, others often see us differently than we see ourselves, so it’s always good to get some insight from others.
Today, find two or three people who know you well, and are familiar with your work. It’s critical that you have sound relationships with these folks, because you need them to tell you the truth.
Ask them for their thoughts on what would happen with your team or organization if you were to leave; would the team/organization be able to carry on successfully without you?
Do they understand your vision well enough to continue driving toward it?
Are they committed to your vision such that they would continue to pursue it, even if you weren’t there to lead them?
Have you equipped them well enough to keep moving forward without you?
What are your answers to these questions? How do your answers fit with what you heard from others?
Several thoughts come to mind for me…
First, I’ve often thought it a sign of an effective leader that his/her team or organization is fully able to carry on the business of the organization in the leader’s absence. It says the leader developed a strong team, provided clear guidance and expectations, equipped the team with the resources it needed, and is able to leave them to their work, knowing all will be well.
Second, having this kind of conversation with trusted colleagues will tell you a great deal about how you are perceived and the effectiveness of your leadership — provided you have developed trust-based relationships with them, so they will tell you the truth, even if it is uncomfortable.
Third, if the team/organization would continue to pursue your vision in your absence, it says the vision truly speaks to the others and they haven’t been “following” you simply because you have a title, position, or authority to make them do it.
As I often tell the leaders I coach, the higher you rise in an organization, the less likely you are to get the kind of candid feedback about your performance from those around and below you, and the more you really need it.
Seek it out!
And when you receive it, consider it a gift…just listen. Say “Thank you.” Reflect on what you heard. Follow up.
It will make you a better leader.
Intentional Leadership — D2, W4, M1 — Vision
Posted in Leadership, tagged Communication, Consequences, Goals, Intentional, Leadership, Planning, Purpose, Reflection, Success, Vision on February 5, 2013| Leave a Comment »
Today, we’re going to take some time to evaluate our effectiveness related to defining and communicating our vision.
Take a few minutes to reflect on these components and and rate your effectiveness:
Remember, 1 = weak and 10 = strong.
How well are you able to cast and define a vision for your team/organization?
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How well can you explain your vision — simply and concisely — to your team/organization?
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How effective are you at communicating the vision over time?
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How well do you link goals, milestones, and strategy to your vision?
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How do you rate your employees’ level of commitment to your vision?
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How honest were you with yourself in assessing your effectiveness above? Following this assessment, what areas of vision definition, communication, and reinforcement do you need to spend more time and energy on?
What resources do you need to grow in your weaker areas (books, mentors, experts, outside perspectives, focused practice)?
What are you risking if you do not improve? How could that affect your team and organization?
We are coming close to the end of month one, focused on vision. If you have work to do in this area, time is of the essence!
“See” you tomorrow!